Welcome back to BeREAL! This week, Diana and Ednesha are joined by relationship coach Riana Milne to discuss childhood and love trauma.
Riana Milne is a Global Cert. Life, Dating & Relationship Coach, CCTP, LMHC, LCADC, CAP, SAC, Certified Mindfulness Coach, Educational Speaker, and #1 Bestselling Author. She has completed over 20 years of research at the core of the Dating to Mating System for Singles and the Relationship Rescue Coaching program for Couples. With the “Mindset for Success,” you will gain the necessary confidence and essential skills to attract and keep an emotionally healthy, evolved and conscious partner. She uses a holistic, individualized coaching approach designed to help every woman, man and couple better understand themselves both emotionally, psychologically and spiritually.
Riana begins the episode by giving listeners insight into her backstory and accomplishments. She explains always wanting to go to counseling as a teenager, but not being allowed to. She gives details on her own experience with love trauma, and shares how that helped shape her career later on in life. She talks about studies that have been done around childhood trauma and how she realized certain groups were excluded. She wasn’t seeing studies done around foster children, LGBTQ+ children, and other marginalized groups of children that she was seeing in her practice.
Seeing this, Riana expanded on these studies with her own work and developed her list of top 10 childhood traumas:
- Addiction Among Caretakers or Parents
- Verbal Issues
- Emotional Abuse or Neglect
- Physical Abuse
- Abandonment (“fault” and “no fault” abandonment)
- Displacement from Family Home
- Personal Trauma
- Sibling Trauma
- Community Trauma/Family Trauma
- Mental Health Issues in Parents
After a short break, Riana returns to discuss her work with couples’ love trauma. She walks listeners through scenarios in which a couple would need to claim responsibility for their own feelings. She makes sure couples address issues at an appropriate time, but nothing goes unspoken about for long periods of time. She even throws in some examples of public figures who have faced the issues discussed in this episode today.
Lastly, Riana tells listeners about her coaching practice. She explains how coaching is a bit different than regular therapy and what circumstances it would be best fit for. She says that clients can expect to be with her for about six months, and that she does not do individual sessions.
Thank you so much for tuning into BeREAL this week! Be on the lookout for a brand new episode next Tuesday. In the meantime, make sure you caught last week’s episode with the team at More Joy Parenting.
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