Welcome back to BeREAL! Continuing the series from last week, Ednesha brings on another member of the BeREAL team, Paige, to talk about her first therapist
Ednesha begins the episode with Diana, who recently got back from a trip to Philadelphia. Diana talks about how the vacation was very much needed and about how she spent her time relaxing. The duo also talk about Ednesha’s objection to get a PhD at the moment, and her sparse habit of listening to the podcast after it is recorded. Don joins in to close out the intro to ask some Halloween themed questions.
Paige joins in and immediately gets into the story of her first time in therapy. She outlines how she was pushed into therapy by her family after the passing of her grandpa. She was 18 and felt shame seeing a clinician because to her that meant she was “imperfect.” However once the shame subsided, Paige, a self-proclaimed “motor mouth” found it easy to talk to her therapist. Some topics were off limits, such as her relationship, but she didn’t feel uncomfortable being the center of focus.
Paige compares her first therapist with the therapists she has seen since then. She explains that overtime she better understood what relationship she wanted with her clinician. She wanted to see her clinician almost as an “aunt figure” – one that is close to her but not overly involved in her life. She also notes that when she returned to therapy later in life, she was less motivated to do the work needed to succeed because she was in a bad place in life. However, once she put in the work her expectations of therapy were met.
To close off the episode, Paige gives some advice to listeners. She says that during the process of finding a therapist and seeking wellness support, be kind to yourself. Times like these can be riddled with negative opinions of oneself, so limit critiquing yourself.
Thank you so much for tuning into BeREAL this week. Be on the lookout for an all new episode in this “The First Time” series next week. In the meantime, make sure to check out last week’s with Jessica!
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