Welcome back to BeREAL! We’re back with another minisode, where Diana and Ednesha are joined by BeWELL’s very own, Suhailey Núñez. Suhailey is here to talk about experiencing impostor syndrome.
Suhailey begins the episode by talking about where she feels impostor syndrome the most, in academia. She discusses how she got into academia, and how throughout the whole process, she didn’t think she was as fit for the job as those around her. She sees this reflected in her patients, as she notes most people she sees experience impostor syndrome in educational or workplace settings. She also notes that many believe impostor syndrome is most common in women, but the reality is most everyone experiences it in some form or another.
Next, Suhailey moves on to discuss comparison. “Comparison is the thief of joy,” she warns. The truth about comparison is that you never compare yourself in a fair way to those around you. Suhailey highlights that most people compare their deepest, darkest parts of themselves to only what others portray on the surface. This makes it hard for people to accept that they have accomplished a lot, because accomplishments are not easily internalized. It is especially hard to internalize achievements that do not fit the established narrative. Suhailey talks about her experience in academia, and how she only had one Latina professor. This might be why she experiences impostor syndrome so prominently in academic settings.
Diana and Ednesha chime in to discuss how therapy fits into the picture Suhailey has painted. Therapy is a great resource for those experiencing impostor syndrome, because there is a fear people will discover your “secrets.” Therapy provides you with a space to talk through your secrets and let them still remain anonymous. Suhailey points out that talking out your feelings of impostor syndrome will also help you realize that it is a very common experience for many.
Lastly, the therapists discuss how impostor syndrome shows up in romantic relationships. They analyze the idea that many people often feel their partner won’t accept the “real them.” To close off the episode, Suhailey gives her three tips to nurturing feelings of impostor syndrome:
- Talk about your feelings with those around you (will help you realize you are not alone)
- Write down the positive experiences you have in a journal
- Find something in your work that you are especially good at
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Also, don’t forget to attend Suhailey’s Live Wellness Webinar about the Impostor Phenomenon on June 22nd!
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