Welcome back to BeREAL! This week, Diana and Ednesha are joined by Veronica Vaiti to discuss all things couples counseling, both in and out of a pandemic.
Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R, CCATP is the Co-Founder and Executive Director of Bhava Therapy Group, a group private psychotherapy practice with offices in Midtown Manhattan and Riverdale, NY and now also providing Teletherapy. Veronica deeply values and respects the unique life journey each and every person she encounters is on. Whether working with a couple, an individual or a team of professionals at an organization, Veronica provides a safe and open space in which her clients can explore their truths, gain clarity around core issues and discover new, healthier ways of relating to themselves and the others in their lives. Forever curious, grounded and accepting, Veronica brings a sense of attuned empathy and playful yet practical approaches to her work as she strives to inspire and challenge her clients to be their best selves.
Veronica begins the episode by telling the hosts how she got into couples counseling. She traces it back to her own parents relationship, and how everything grew from there. Remembering the past is a common theme throughout the episode. Veronica explains how couples have to focus not just on the present relationship, but the past relationship too. How did the relationship come to be like this? What brought these two people together originally? Veronica suggests that looking to the past can help couples look at their relationship in a more positive light.
Next up, Veronica talks about how behaviour in couples has changed during the pandemic. She explains the roadblocks to conducting couples counseling sessions virtually. This is especially present in couples who have kids in the house. Despite the difficulties, Veronica shares how she remedied these issues to make couples counseling just as effective out of office. She also points out some ways that the pandemic has helped couples. Mainly, she highlights how a couple’s sex life could be more lively now that most people are working from home.
Lastly, Diana and Veronica discuss the importance of body language during a couples counseling session. It is important for therapists and couples to pay attention to the body language of each person in the room. This is important in understanding the meaning of each thing said during the session. Veronica calls this the “landing and launching” of a statement. Body language can be very hard to interpret through a screen during virtual counseling sessions, but Veronica also explains the ways that she has worked around that roadblock.
Thank you so much for tuning into BeREAL this week. Be on the lookout for a brand new episode next Tuesday. In the meantime, make sure to check out last week’s episode with Andrea Dresser on Sex Therapy.
For more information on Veronica Vaiti and her practice, visit her website here.
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